Wednesday, December 28, 2005
What means this, "Woman from Mars"?
It's an awkward moment: I have to decide if I'm writing this blog just for myself, as a kind of electronic diary, or if I make the leap and figure someone who doesn't know me will read it and be in need of some background information.
But if this is nothing more than an electronic diary, why am I even putting it on the web? I could just as easily keep a journal in Word. I may invite some other folks to read this some day, and there's always a chance someone might stumble onto it.
So...allow me to introduce myself.
I am a woman from Mars...referring, of course, to the Mars/Venus stereotype. I tend to communicate more like what is typically in a "male" style and often have a hard time relating to other women. (Interestingly enough, my husband shows a lot of Venus tendencies himself -- maybe that's why we've been together for 25 years and happily married for 16).
This realization struck me a few months ago when I realized I have very few close female friends, and those who I do feel close to all live in other parts of the country. We communicate primarily, even exclusively, through e-mail. The more I thought about it, the more I realized how little I have in common with what is stereotypically "female":
But if this is nothing more than an electronic diary, why am I even putting it on the web? I could just as easily keep a journal in Word. I may invite some other folks to read this some day, and there's always a chance someone might stumble onto it.
So...allow me to introduce myself.
I am a woman from Mars...referring, of course, to the Mars/Venus stereotype. I tend to communicate more like what is typically in a "male" style and often have a hard time relating to other women. (Interestingly enough, my husband shows a lot of Venus tendencies himself -- maybe that's why we've been together for 25 years and happily married for 16).
This realization struck me a few months ago when I realized I have very few close female friends, and those who I do feel close to all live in other parts of the country. We communicate primarily, even exclusively, through e-mail. The more I thought about it, the more I realized how little I have in common with what is stereotypically "female":
- I have no children and feel incredibly alienated when others talk about their little darlings (more about this later when I get into posting about fertility/infertility).
- I hate shopping. Want to torture me? Make me spend the afternoon wandering from store to store in a mall.
- Related to the point above, I don't have much of an interest in fashion, cosmetics, etc.
- I am a very private person and don't like talking about myself or my feelings -- but I DO like writing and find I can address my thoughts and feeling through that channel...hence, this blog
- I don't follow celebrities and can't relate to celebrity gossip (Jennifer and Brad, or Brad and Angelina, or Jennifer and whoever - who cares!). I can't understand why a lot of women get so wrapped up in this.
- Even more than that, I can't understand why a lot of women gossip about each other so unmercilessly. Why do I want to get wrapped up in a group of people who are going to talk about me like that when I'm not present?
- I DO like sports -- I love to watch a football game while knocking back a couple of cold brewskis. And it wouldn't be beyond me to enjoy a nice Cuban, either. So put me back on the planet Mars. Or at least let me hang out in front of the TV with the guys, instead of expecting me to be happy in the kitchen with the women.
Well, that's a little bit about me. More to come in future posts.
# posted by Martian1 @ 9:43 AM 
